FoxNews By Craig Groeschel
As bullying problems land in the headlines month after month, it’s natural that our culture frowns upon any form of fighting. And for Christians, the familiar verse about turning the other cheek leads many of us to a place where we see fighting as a failure in living out our faith.
Do you want my reaction as a father? As a pastor? Teach your son to fight. That’s what he’s made to do.
That’s right—our sons need to learn how to fight. In addition to learning how to fight, more importantly they need to know when to fight and why to fight. They also need to learn when to walk away.
God has given us a divine desire to fight for righteousness.
But saying there’s no place for fighting just isn’t true.
And guess who your child needs to hear that from? That’s right, YOU.
The father. The grandfather. The brother-filling-in-as-a-father. The man who knows your heavenly Father, and knows that you were made to fight.
I read a book recently that suggested our culture has tried to turn good men into women—nicer, softer, kinder, more compassionate and fashion savvy. Forgive me for stating the obvious, but men are not women. (For the record, women don’t make good men, either.) After all, God created us differently. “So God created human beings in his own image; in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27, NLT). Both men and women reflect the image of God, but in unique, distinct ways.
God created men with the heart of a warrior, placing within us a desire to stand up and fight for what’s pure, for what’s true. A man has a warrior’s heart. That’s God’s design, not ours. That doesn’t mean all men should be aggressive, alpha bullies. It simply means God has given us a divine desire to fight for righteousness.
Before you train the boys around you to pick a fight for no reason at school, let me caution you. I’m not advocating violence. I’m simply encouraging you to help those around you learn to stand up for what is right.
Why does this matter? A man without a cause from God is often just an angry man who doesn’t know where to direct his pent-up energy and aggression. A warrior with a cause from God directs that war-like energy toward a cause greater than himself.
Until there’s something you’re willing to die for, you can’t truly live.
Your sons are created to fight for righteousness. Until you help them tap into that divine cause, they’ll be bored, destructive, and frustrated.
We need to help re-define the way they think about what it means to be a warrior. It’s not about cockiness and attitude, not about six-pack abs and picking fights, not about succeeding in life and winning everyone’s admiration or envy.
Being a true warrior is about knowing the source of true strength. It’s about knowing your own weaknesses and turning to God to empower you to be the man he made you to be.
You don’t have to become Jason Bourne or James Bond (Sean Connery or Daniel Craig—not those other wimps) to be a warrior.
Not only does God want you to fight, but he wants to give you a cause greater than yourself. Then, once you love something enough that you’re willing to die for it, you’ll be set free to live.
Consider what the leader Joab said to inspire his warriors in 2 Samuel 10:12: “Be strong and let us fight bravely for our people and the cities of our God” (emphasis mine). Fight for a cause greater than yourself. It’s in you.
You know it’s there. You can feel it. You have the heart of a warrior.
Maybe you’re thinking, I don’t know, Craig. I’m a laid-back dude, peaceful, live and let live. I’m not really into the whole fight club scene. “Call of Duty’s” an awesome video game, but actually, I don’t even know if I know how to fight.
It’s OK if you don’t think of yourself as a warrior, at least in earthly terms. But God has made you to fight a battle. And he’s given us many spiritual weapons. What’s important for us to remember is that the strongest man is not the one who lifts the most weight, but the one who has the most faith.
Others of you may be thinking, “There really is a battle brewing. And I can’t afford to lose it.” If that’s you, it’s time for you to fight. Maybe you’re in danger of failing financially. Now is the time to fight like your life depends on it.
To get control of your budget and align your priorities with your cash flow. Perhaps you’re playing with a lustful fire.
You keep returning to images and people and places that excite you but also unleash something you’re afraid you can’t control. You’re going to get burned. Decide. Confess and overcome this darkness.
You don’t want your sons to go through life not knowing how to stand up for truth or fight against dangerous temptations. For their sake—fight. And don’t just fight like a man. Show them how to fight like a man—of God!
The best way to teach them to fight is to show them what it looks like. If you want your sons to learn how to fight, show them what it looks like to fight for what’s right.
Your marriage might be hanging by a thread. Determine to never surrender. Use love, patience, and forgiveness. Lay down your life and save your marriage.
Maybe your kids are making dangerous decisions. Get down on your knees and fight like a man of faith!
Learn how to fight with faith, with prayer, and with the Word of God. Then, when your enemy begins to attack, fight for the righteous cause that God gave you.
Draw a line in the sand. Make your enemy pay: Don’t cross a warrior. Don’t mess with this man of God. Come out fighting.
And when you fight—don’t fight clean. Use the weapons God gave you, and you’ll win in more ways than you could imagine. Can you feel it? It’s inside you.
It’s time to fight like a man.
Craig Groeschel is the pastor of the nation’s second largest church, LifeChurch.tv in Edmond, Okla., and the author of several books. His most recent book is “Altar Ego: Becoming Who God Says You Are” (Zondervan) His next book, “Fight: Winning the Battles That Matter Most” (Zondervan) will be released in October 2013.
By Alexandra Chachkevitch Tribune reporter
About 130 Illinois Army National Guard soldiers who served in Afghanistan for 10 months landed home this morning at Chicago O’Hare International Airport to reunite with their families and, in some cases, meet their newborn babies for the first time on the eve of Father’s Day.
The soldiers are part of the 933rd Military Police Company, which is based in Fort Sheridan, and were deployed as a unit in August of 2012.
Speaking during a brief ceremony after the troops stepped off their plane, Capt. Thomas Gilligan, 933rd commander, said the guard worked hard to get the soldiers home in time for the holiday.
“It’s exciting that it happened to work out,” Gilligan said.
Jessica Clabaugh, 21, was waiting for one of the soldiers, her boyfriend Paul Stansbury, along with their 5-month-old son, Hunter, in a crowd of more than 150 people outside near the airport.
Clabaugh, of Champaign County, and Stansbury’s sister, mother, father and niece traveled together for about three hours in order to reunite with Paul.
“There was no way I was going to sleep last night,” said Clabaugh with a big smile. “I’m so happy and overwhelmed. I just want to hug him, that’s it.”
A few minutes later, the couple finally was able to embrace after months of separation.
Stansbury, 22, was one of ten fathers in the unit who missed the birth of their children.
“I watched him grow on Facebook,” Stansbury said, holding Hunter for the first time in disbelief. “This is unbelievable.”
During their deployment, the soldiers worked with special forces troops and were spread out across four remote combat posts in Afghanistan, working on missions like guard operations and prison escort.
“Family is key for our soldiers,” Gilligan said, adding that those connections are important for the morale and health of the troops.
Stansbury said he spoke frequently with his family over the phone while he was abroad but is relieved to finally be able to hug and see them.
“This is a perfect present for Father’s Day” said Paul’s father, Dan Stansbury. “We’re so glad he’s back.”
At the Dad 2.0 Summit in Houston, brands like Dove, which served whiskey samples, sought ways to gain the fathers’ business.
By HANNAH SELIGSON Published: February 23, 2013
THE hapless, bumbling father is a stock character in product marketing. He makes breakfast for dinner and is incapable of handling, or sometimes even noticing, a soggy diaper. He tries desperately to hide the crumb-strewn, dirt-streaked evidence of his poor parenting before the mother gets home.
The photograph is of my christening, in 1953. That’s me with my mum and dad, Ruth and Norman Brearey, and my brother Brian.
Nearly eight years later, in April 1961, Dad and I are standing in the backyard of our house in County Durham, looking up at the night sky. Yuri Gagarin is up there somewhere; the first man in space. Dad has brought me outside to look and to wonder at how incredible it is. We laugh as we think maybe Gagarin is looking down at us. “You know,” Dad says, “you could be the first woman astronaut if you wanted to be and you worked hard enough at school.”
Another time, I ask Dad how I can get a cardboard model aeroplane to fly under its own steam. I was thinking that lollipop sticks and elastic bands might work if I could get them to twist round and then twist back on themselves. Dad said it sounded like I might be on to something, perhaps I could be an inventor and discover the secret of perpetual motion.
These conversations went on throughout my childhood and teenage years. They got more realistic as I got older, but what never wavered was the message that I should do whatever I wanted to do and he would support it. It was taken for granted that I would leave home and have a career. A two-day school trip to Stratford-upon-Avon when I was 13 was described as my “first trial fliggie [flight]”.
For a father to be like this with a daughter born in the early 1950s seems more amazing the older I get. Dad came from a mining family in west Durham. Like his father, grandfather and older brothers he became a miner when he left school, but he escaped (his words) a couple of years later for a job at the Co-op, where he worked all his life except for joining the Royal Navy during the war.
His mother never learned to read or write. His sisters went into domestic service from leaving school at 14 until they married.
Dad himself was always the family breadwinner. Mum had worked in shops between leaving school and having a family and returned to shop work when I was a teenager. The women in Dad’s life were clever, strong and capable but they didn’t leave home and have careers.
Of course, he wasn’t the only dad to do what he did. Some of my school and university friends had fathers from similar backgrounds who championed their daughters’ independence with just the same enthusiasm. And there must have been thousands more nationally, cheering on their daughters to take advantage of the chances their mothers, sisters and wives had never had.
What I admire is not just the decision to grasp those chances for his child but then having the imagination to know how to bring up his daughter in a completely different way – to fire her imagination with the idea that life could be very different from the lives lived by the women around her. How did they know how to do that?
Dad died 25 years ago, long before I thought to ask him. Knowing Dad, he would just have said it was easy, and came naturally. Still, I am ever grateful for my amazing 1950s father.
He was the best.
Nicole Hawkins‘ three daughters have matching glittery boots, but none has the same father. Each has uniquely colored ties in her hair, but none has a dad present in her life.
As another single mother on Sumner Road decked her row-house stoop with Christmas lights and a plastic Santa, Ms. Hawkins recalled that her middle child’s father has never spent a holiday or birthday with her. In her neighborhood in Southeast Washington, 1 in 10 children live with both parents, and 84 percent live with only their mother.
In every state, the portion of families where children have two parents, rather than one, has dropped significantly over the past decade. Even as the country added 160,000 families with children, the number of two-parent households decreased by 1.2 million. Fifteen million U.S. children, or 1 in 3, live without a father, and nearly 5 million live without a mother. In 1960, just 11 percent of American children lived in homes without fathers.
America is awash in poverty, crime, drugs and other problems, but more than perhaps anything else, it all comes down to this, said Vincent DiCaro, vice president of the National Fatherhood Initiative: Deal with absent fathers, and the rest follows.
People “look at a child in need, in poverty or failing in school, and ask, ‘What can we do to help?’ But what we do is ask, ‘Why does that child need help in the first place?’ And the answer is often it’s because [the child lacks] a responsible and involved father,” he said.
The spiral continues each year. Married couples with children have an average income of $80,000, compared with $24,000 for single mothers.
We have one class that thinks marriage and fatherhood is important, and another which doesn’t, and it’s causing that gap, income inequality, to get wider,” Mr. DiCaro said.
The predilection among men to walk away from their babies is concentrated in the inner cities. In Baltimore, 38 percent of families have two parents, and in St. Louis the portion is 40 percent.
The near-total absence of male role models has ripped a hole the size of half the population in urban areas.
Children asked for a new sibling, pet or a ‘dad’ for Christmas, a survey has shown
By Hannah Furness 24 Dec 2012
When it comes to Christmas, it might be safe to assume children will ask Santa for an extensive list of toys, games and treats.
But a survey of their typical lists for Father Christmas has shown many have more serious concerns, requesting “a dad” instead.
A study of 2,000 British parents found most children will put a new baby brother or sister at the top of their Christmas list, closely followed by a request for a real-life reindeer.
A “pet horse” was the third most popular choice, with a “car” making a bizarre entry at number four.
Despite their material requests, the tenth most popular Christmas wish on the list was a “Dad”.
The survey, of consumers at Westfield London and Westfield Stratford City, found children aged three to 12 years also wanted a dog, chocolate and a stick of rock.
Traditional hopes for a white Christmas were represented by a wish for “snow” in ninth place, with sensible youngsters also requesting a “house”.
Of the top 50 festive requests, 17 related to pets and animals, with some imaginative children hoping for a donkey, chicken and elephant.
iPhones and iPads also appeared on the list, with some quirky children asking for the moon, a time machine, a pond cover and beetroot. One child asked for Eva Longoria and another wanted Harry Styles from One Direction.
A request for a “mum” reached number 23 on the list.
It has taken a long time, here is the upgrade to the Blog and with more pages, information, news and advice to follow.
In the Days to come there will be new sections and some surprises for us all.
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I don’t add to many posts, (second one so far) but felt the need to share a Happy Fathers day message. – HAPPY DAD’S DAY!
One day at work, many years ago, a co-worker of mine who came from India was talking to me about his family. How he had rich brothers and how he ended up taking care of their mom, she was old and needed care. (sad story that I won’t go into here)
He than asked about my family, He new that I was married and had five kids. So I told him about my uncles, my dad’s brothers. How they were rich. One was a Bank of America vice president and the other made millions in the stock market. He asked about their kids and I explained that only the uncle that worked for B of A had a child. Just one, and that they did not get alone to well and that he was not going to have children. The other uncle’s wife had MS and never had children.
My friend thought about all this silently for several minutes then declared that, with out a doubt. That My father was the richest man out of the three brothers because he had a wealth of five grandchildren and that some day I would be just as wealthy if not more so…
The riches of the world can be measured in many ways but a true treasure is found in your legacy. It comes from the family, the children and what you teach them.
So take heart you Dad’s and enjoy your “riches” they are a blessing to you from God and their worth is immeasurable.
Why are Dads Cool? Because we say we are, That’s Why!
It makes such perfect sense to a Dad, no need to explain. as a matter of fact if we have to explain then it takes the Cool away.
Dads understand everything and we know where we are going at all times.
This WEB site will help prove this!
This site will also make it clear to the world that you can mock us, make us look silly and stupid. But we are not going away, we are always going to be there. Like all the times you fell trying to ride that bike, we picked you up.
Looks like we are going to have to pick you up again soon…
Lots more coming!